Advice, please.

Do any of you mommies (or non-mommies for that matter) have any advice on getting a 2 year old to stop hitting others with toys? Both when they are mad and simply for the heck-of-it?

I don't want to use her crib as a "time-out" spot because we are finally in a good place with her sleeping and I would really not like to associate that spot with anything negative.

I am also not into the whole spanking thing. Something about "you hit her so now I am going to teach you that is wrong by hitting you" kinda seems to send the wrong message in my mind. Call me crazy?

Any other ideas would be gladly and appreciatively and desperately welcomed. 


8 comments:

Jessie said...

I have LOVED the Love and Logic method. There's a book you can buy specifically for 0-5 yrs on it.

At our house, I use "no" or "uh-oh, we don't hit" and just simply take the toy away. That's it. No getting mad, just a consequence. We also use "put your nose on the wall" as a time out. It works anywhere.

Good luck! Even though I discipline, he still does it over and over and over...

rachel! said...

No more 30 Rock until she can be a nice girl again

Lauren said...

I know i'm not a mommy, but i've seen people do a time out step on the stairs? There's nothing to play with and it's boring.

Brittany Bauer said...

I have heard to buy a mat like a door mat that you can take places and have them sit on the thinking mat when they need to take a break (timeout). They have to sit there for how ever many minutes they are old (So Hadi would be for 2 minutes) Dunno if it works but it sounds like a good idea because it travels with the child :)

Carlie said...

I will want your advice when you figure out what works!

Katy said...

Definitely take away the toy. Timeout if you want. I just use whatever corner of the house is most boring, I still often have to stand there so they don't get up. Timeout is not over until they say sorry.

Also, when something becomes a real problem at my house, we try positive reinforcement. I use some kind of fun jar maybe decorated with stickers, every few minutes she doesn't hit, put something in the jar. I usually use colorful pompoms. Make a big deal out of how good she is doing! When it is full I give an extra treat or go to the park or something like that. This works really well for us.
Good luck!

Jeannette & Brandt said...

Paisley is the worst offender of this exact problem! I know she is not trying to hurt Peyton...but she thinks it is funny to hit her with toys. I also really like the love and logic method. I will just tell her "uh-oh" and then I take the toy from her or remove her from the situation- so we will go sit on the stairs(because honestly, time outs just dont work for her. She wont stay put and I dont feel like she learns anything from it) So I will go sit with her on the stairs and just explain to her why we dont hit and how she would feel if someone were to hit her with a toy and how it makes others sad. And I ALWAYS make her apologize and give whoever she has hit a hug.

raisingahappyfamily-momof8 said...

good luck! a flying toy can be dangerous! I dealt with this problem by talking to my child, calmly, and explaining toys can hurt and that it was bad manners. but firmly without soft words that could be manipulated. the rules and expectations were clear, no hitting. seems a lot to comprehend for a 2 yr old, but they comprehend more than we give them credit for.
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